vicious cycle of not-emailing
I am terrible at keeping in touch. I don’t like to talk on the phone, and rely mostly on email to stay updated on friends’ lives. But the problem is, when I get a nice email from someone far away I am frozen by responsibility.
It was so nice to hear from her, I’d better write something substantive in return. Well, I’m too busy to do that right now, I’ll wait until I can devote a chunk of time to the endeavor.
Each time I see the offending email in my inbox I think the same thing, only as the receipt date of the email fades farther into the past I feel like I need a larger chunk of time to write something really worth the wait. This generally ends in no email response at all, or some crappy apology generated through guilt and shame with a brief list of highlights from my life and a request for further updates on whatever it is my friend originally emailed me about, as so much time has passed since that first message. And so the cycle continues. Why anyone bothers to try and keep up with me is a mystery, but I am grateful that there are folks out there more responsible about it than I.



